Ask Me How It Works
Love in an Open Marriage
Published by Viking Books UK
Longlisted for the 2026 Women’s Prize for Non-fiction
Je mag me alles vragen: liefde in een open huwelijk
Uitgeverij Nieuw Amsterdam
Photo by Samira Kafala
About Deepa
Born to Filipino and Indian parents in Manila, Deepa Paul lives in Amsterdam.
Her debut memoir, Ask Me How it Works: Love in an Open Marriage is longlisted for the 2026 Women’s Prize for Non-fiction.
Meet the author
October 12
Book Signing
Waterstones, Amsterdam
Free
In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam, Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend’s bed.
She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home, where she is welcomed into the arms of her husband, whose contentment is mellow alongside her own.
There isn’t a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible — even if it wasn’t always this easy.